Nonviolent Communication (NVC) is a way of speaking and listening developed by Marshall Rosenberg. Its core is simple: describe what you observe without judgement, name your feeling, find the need behind it and make a clear request.
In NVC coaching you practise these four steps on real situations from your own life. It is not a treatment for mental illness; it is training in a communication skill that can be used alongside therapy or on its own.
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The coach first explains the four parts of NVC with simple examples: observation, feeling, need and request. Then you take a real conversation from your life and rebuild it using these four parts.
A large part of the work is empathic listening: guessing the feeling and need behind the other person's harsh words. Role play in sessions helps the sentences sound natural and in your own voice, not like a textbook.
NVC can feel harder in Persian because politeness rituals (taarof) and indirect speech are part of the culture. A coach familiar with that culture helps you apply the method in a way that respects it.
Sessions are online and often about an hour long. Between sessions you are often asked to try one small conversation or to note your feelings and needs.
At first, speaking this way may feel artificial. With practice it often becomes more natural, but the other person's behaviour is not in your control and no result is guaranteed.
Examples are fictional and illustrative.
Leila and her husband in Vancouver argue every week about housework. In coaching, instead of "you never help", Leila practises saying what she saw, how she feels and what she wants. The following week they discuss her husband's response. This is a fictional example.
Bahram keeps clashing with his teenage son, who now mostly speaks German. He practises guessing and asking about his son's feelings and needs before giving advice. This story is invented.
Shima needs to give a colleague feedback about repeated lateness and dreads the tension. With her coach she prepares and role plays a clear sentence without blame. This example is for illustration only.
These therapists list this on their profile. All sessions are online and in Persian.
No. NVC means speaking honestly and clearly, without blame or labels. You can express disagreement or upset very plainly.
NVC works from one side too. When you listen better and speak more clearly the conversation often shifts, though there is no guarantee.
Couples therapy addresses deeper relationship patterns and psychological difficulties. NVC coaching focuses on one specific communication skill and can be individual or for two people.
Many coaches also offer joint sessions. It is best to ask before booking.
This page is general information and does not replace a professional assessment. If you are in immediate danger or thinking about harming yourself, contact your local emergency services. Urgent help
